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Self Centeredness: The Source of All Grief

Self Centeredness The Source of All Grief By Andrew Wommack

Proverbs 13 verse 10 says, “Only by pride cometh contention: but with the well advised is wisdom.” Many people at first would take issue with this and say, “Wait a minute. Pride can’t be the only thing that causes contention or strife. Proverbs 17:14 says that contention is the beginning of strife, so strife has to be caused by more than just pride. It’s what so-and-so has done to me.” Others will say, “You don’t understand; this is just the type of person I am.” No, the scripture says that only by pride comes contention. It’s not one of the leading causes; it’s the only cause. Some people again would take issue and say, “I’ve got all kinds of problems, but pride isn’t one of them. If anything, I’ve got such low self-esteem, there’s no way anybody can accuse me of pride.”   somebody else, but in the simplest terms, it is seeing yourself as the center of everything. Self-centeredness is really the root of all pride. To read the full lesson text click here.

To complete this course, watch the video below and then work through the question and answer section.


​1.  Read Mark 9:33-34. What were the disciples arguing about on the road going to Capernaum?

2.  Does this reflect the selfishness in all of us? 

3.  Read Mark 9:35. According to this scripture, if someone wants to be first, they must become what?

4.  Explain in detail Jesus’ teaching in Luke 22:24-27. 

5.  Read Proverbs 13:10. What is the only thing that causes contention? 

6.  Read Galatians 2:20. How should we live our lives?

7.  Read Matthew 7:12. What is the antidote for self-centeredness?  


​1.  They argued about who was the greatest. 

2.  Yes. 

3.  Servant of all.

4.  “And they began to argue among themselves as to who would be the greatest in the coming Kingdom. Jesus told them, ‘In this world the kings and great men order their people around, and yet they are called “friends of the people.” But among you, those who are the greatest should take the lowest rank, and the leader should be like a servant. Normally the master sits at the table and is served by his servants. But not here! For I am your servant’” (Luke 22:24-27, New Living Translation). 

5.  Pride. 

6.  By the faith of Christ (or faith in Christ), not centered on our own strengths or weaknesses. 

7.  To be God centered and others centered. Treat others like we want to be treated.

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